
“The rape of a child is a violent act of contempt, not an expression of sexuality or affection.”
― Mike Lew and Childhood Sexual Trauma
DEFINITION OF PEDOPHILE
Pedophilia is a paraphilia that involves an abnormal interest in children. Pedophilia is also a psychosexual disorder in which the fantasy or actual act of engaging in sexual activity with prepubertal children is the preferred or exclusive means of achieving sexual excitement and gratification. It may be directed toward children of the same sex or children of the other sex. Some pedophiles are attracted to both boys and girls. Some are attracted only to children, while others are attracted to adults as well as to children.
We can establish three main categories of pedophiles from the way they feel about acting out:
- Abstinent pedophiles, who made a conscious and willing choice to never have sexual relationships with children;
- Passive pedophiles, who refrain from acting out not by choice but because of external factors they have no control over (relational inhibitions, fear of prison or of social rejection, etc);
- Active pedophiles, who are ready and willing to act out, whether by waiting for an opportunity or by actively seeking one, possibly meeting a greater or lesser number of criteria.